Mom passed away on March 17th after a well lived life of 93 years, 7 months. The following is my “Reflection” that was read my my cousin Tom at the funeral last week. I thank Tom for reading this because I never would have been able to do it that day. It will be a huge transition for me to no longer have Mom here. I would like to think that we both will transition in style.
Mom…she had a lightness in her spirit. Her light shone from within. She was always positive, she was always supportive. She was fun to be with and was always excited to see us. Even as the dementia progressed, she never “lost” us. She always knew us and was thrilled to see us. She loved our daily cups of tea or coffee together. When we took our afternoon walks with her she would stop to say hi to everyone we passed. She was always complimenting someone on how they looked and asking how they were. Everyone would tell her how lucky she was to have her family with her. To her, we were the light in her life. For us, it was always her.
She championed all of our causes and never let us down. For her, the family was everything. Dad was the love of her life but he had to share her love with us which was not a problem because she had plenty to give. Her parents, her sister Kay and her brothers Tom and Donald also meant the world to her. Mom came from very poor beginnings but her love for family and her faith in God made her rich. That richness and her positive attitude, always a positive attitude, permeated her life and led her to the wonderful life with Dad that she so deserved. There was no love missing in our house. You could always feel it surround you and support you. She was generous, kind and loving.
If we are half the person that Mom was, we can consider our lives a success.
I am certain that on St Patrick’s day she and Aunt Kay were step dancing once again, and that Dad was watching and when they finished their dance he requested a cha-cha for them.
I saw a poem by Irene Conner that was perfect for us now.
Although you cannot hear her voice Or see her smile no more, Your mother walks beside you still Just as she did before. She listens to your stories and She wipes away your tears, She wraps her arms around you And she understands your fears. It’s just she isn’t visible To see with human eye, But talk to her in silence and Her spirit will reply. You’ll feel the love she has for you You’ll hear her in your heart, She’s left her human body, But your souls will never part.
Mom will be missed.